What now?

After confessing to her about my feelings two days ago, she immediately felt awkward and is going to avoid me forever. Anyway I had already expected this was going to happen. In fact I don't blame her for all this. Moreover, the confession comes after my cousin told me to confess first and thereafter let her go. So in the fire i went and this is where I stand...

Looking back on my Facebook message wall when I remember receiving a message from a good friend of mine. It really makes me think...I really should forget about her this time...

Sometimes, it is just too difficult, if not impossible, to stop the way you feel for another person. If your feelings for this other person are good, pure and genuine, I don't see why this can be deemed as wrong, regardless of whether this person reciprocates your feelings or not. Such feelings are in fact, a part of human nature.

The feelings are not wrong in themselves but if you do not manage them properly, then you might end up doing the wrong things, which will have consequences. At your current stage in life, your studies must occupy the first priority. You know very well that this will have a great impact on your life in future. Hence, if there is something that might detract you from your studies, or even cause you to not perform at your best, it must be avoided. Though there may be a few exceptions, most relationships that started during the schooling years do not end up becoming a permanent, stable relationship, i.e. marriage. Even if it does, a marriage involves more than just a warm, fuzzy feeling of romance in the heart. It also involves many other practical issues and having a good education will put you in good stead to handle them.

What's more, this person doesn't even seem to be reciprocating your feelings. It is not wrong for you to have special feelings towards her but it is important that you are in control of yourself. One of the key marks of an adult, especially a man, is the ability to exercise control over one's feelings and not let them override one's reason. Take it as a challenge to help you develop your resilience and strength of character. Who knows what the future may hold? Perhaps if you maintain a simple friendship with her, she might have a change of heart in the future. Or perhaps, you might meet someone more suited to you? Whichever way, you'll be more ready to handle it then.